Confrontation is inevitable. Bitterness and anger swell in our hearts until we explode. By that time, we have, typically, said words that we do not mean and would like to take back. That’s why getting to the bottom of what’s going on, is so important.
There are times when a situation calls for a coming together of minds to release the pressure by speaking calmly and rationally about the conflict at hand. This happened to me today. Several events that occurred at work made me feel like an explosive waiting to be detonated. Because the act of unkindness happened for a couple of weeks, everyday, it was time. Time to confront the situation.
God says in His Word, James 1:19, to be slow to anger. He didn’t say that we would never be angry. What is written in the Bible is to be quick to hear, slow to speak, and slow to anger. I listened for a couple of weeks, I didn’t say much of anything in return to the person that was speaking unprofessional and disrespectful to me. I was at the point of shaking all over before the end of the day.
Confronting a person that is causing trouble could go two ways; good or bad. The good way would be speaking calmly and respectfully and dissolving the misunderstanding. The bad way – the opposite. For me, talking to the other party involved, worked out well. A misunderstanding was cleared up and apologies were made.
Matthew 21:12, shows that Jesus became angry at money changers in the temple courts. So angry, in fact, he overturned the tables where the money changers were working. Jesus was angry for a good reason, and He confronted the people in the courts that were doing wrong. My guess is that Jesus didn’t want to turn over tables. He would much rather have been ministering to everyone in the temple courts, I’m sure.
There are many things in life that may need confronting. Perhaps a fear, unforgiveness, bitterness, or maybe like me, a situation needs to have the bandage removed so what’s underneath can heal. Whatever the case may be in your life, remember to choose your battles wisely. Make sure they are worth fighting for,just in case you have to.